New Pamphlet Gives Coeds the Facts about “Hooking Up”

By Susan Brinkmann, OCDS
Staff Writer 
A new pamphlet written by a staff psychiatrist at UCLA and directed toward college-age women exposes the many physical and mental dangers associated with the uninhibited sexual climate that dominates most college campuses.

Entitled, “Sense and Sexuality: The College Girl’s Guide to Real Protection in a Hooked-up World,” Miriam Grossman, M.D. describes the typical scene in her office, a young and broken-hearted woman in crisis who fell for the “safe sex” myth and ended up filled with disease and regret.

“The worst part?” Dr. Grossman writes in the introduction, “Many times the crisis was 100 percent preventable. ‘If only I’d known,’ she says. ‘If only someone had told me.’ I’ve written this for you – for young women everywhere – so you won’t ever utter these words.”

She points out that while her pamphlet is not a guide to “safer sex,” it gives women vital health information they won’t find anywhere else.
For instance, the pamphlet cites a Princeton University study that explains why 80 percent of women who “hook up” with a guy on campus wish it hadn’t happened. The study found that men and women see these casual affairs in dramatically different ways. Women are twice as likely to hope for emotional involvement after a “hook up” than guys, while men are more interested in improving their social reputation by bragging about their exploits. This explains why forty nine percent of “hook ups” never see one another again and only 10 percent of “friends with benefits” become romantically involved.

It also explains why more than 91 percent of college women say that rather than experiencing the love and romance they craved after a “hook up,” the majority report feelings of guilt and “being used.”

Most women don’t know that their own physiology plays a role in the negative emotions they experience after a “hook up.” This can also be due to the effects of oxytocin, a hormone released by intimate behavior which makes a woman want to bond with her mate. “Because of it [oxytocin], you could develop feelings for a guy whose last intention is to bond with you,” Dr. Grossman writes. “You might think of him all day, but he can’t remember your name.”

These emotional disappointments are only part of the woes a woman can expect to experience as a result of promiscuous sexual behavior. As Dr. Grossman points out, the cervix of a young woman is particularly vulnerable to infection, which is why the nationwide epidemic of sexually transmitted diseases is affecting mostly women under the age of 25. This situation is exacerbated by the fact that so many young men are infected with STDs and don’t know it because they have no symptoms.

The pamphlet wipes away the myth that condoms and activities such as oral sex can protect against sexually transmitted diseases and bluntly advises young women not to engage in sexual activity.

For those students who may not be receptive to a religious or moral argument against pre-marital sex, Dr. Grossman’s pamphlet offers no moral arguments and instead offers a wealth of scientific fact that is difficult to argue with.

Dr. Miriam Grossman is a board-certified psychiatrist and the once-anonymous author of Unprotected: A Campus Psychiatrist Reveals How Political Correctness Endangers Every Student.  She is a Senior Fellow at the Clare Boothe Luce Policy Institute, a non-profit organization that promotes conservative women in leadership roles.


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