Commentary by Susan Brinkmann, OCDS
The bizarre story of three “married” lesbian women who call themselves a “throuple” and who are now expecting their first child is just another example of how far down the slope society has already slid.
The Daily Mail is reporting on the story of Doll, 30, Kitten, 27, and Brynn, 34, from Massachusetts who were united in a legally contrived ceremony last summer and are expecting a daughter in July of this year.
A family lawyer helped the throuple to create a union in which Brynn and Kitten were legally married and Doll was handfasted [a pagan marriage ritual] to the pair so that they could be as legally married as possible. The lawyer drew up special paperwork for the threesome that handles any issues pertaining to their joint assets, their wills, and their legal rights to children.
Kitten then underwent IVF treatment using her own eggs and a anonymous sperm donor to conceive.
In what is perhaps the most selfish part of this story, the trio says they plan to have three children – “one for each” – as if a baby is some kind of award to which they are each entitled.
The throuple’s background provides a glimpse into the kind of rampant sexual confusion that is seeping into our culture.
Byrnn, a software designer and engineer said she first met Doll in 2009 through an online dating site. Brynn had been married to women twice before and claimed that these unions taught her that monogamy was not for her.
Doll, a fashion designer, says she knew since high school that she was not only a lesbian but polygamous besides.
“I had always dated girls – who although they had boyfriends or girlfriends – were also allowed to date me,” Doll said. “I never thought that much about it and I had never really ‘come out’ as poly to my friends and family. To me, it was just how I was.”
Brynn and Doll eventually bought a house and moved in together.
But they weren’t enough for each other – both wanted to find a third woman to complete their polygamist picture. They logged onto the OkCupid webside, the same site that brought about the resignation of Mozilla CEO Brandon Eich, and that’s where they connected with Kitten.
Kitten claims she had been in two long-term relationships with men, both of which ended badly, before she realized that “I had not been honest to myself.” What the breakups taught her is that she was really polygamous.
“I set up an OKCupid profile for myself and began dating an awesome woman with the happy consent of her husband,” Kitten said. “They were a lovely couple but we ended the relationship after I had to move away.
“Soon after that amicable break-up, I came across Doll’s and Kitten’s OKCupid profile and saw they were looking for a third member to join their ‘Super Hero Group’.”
The threesome met at a Chinese Restaurant for their first date and instantly liked each other.
“There was an instant attraction with Kitten but I think we all really bonded when we baked cookies together on our fourth date,” Doll said. “I didn’t know what love was until the three of us clicked like that.”
Kitten eventually moved in and two years later, they decided it was time to get married.
All three claimed to have had traditional upbringings but only Kitten admits that her family had a problem with her lifestyle. Apparently, her father refused to speak with her when he found out about her strange sexual preferences but the two reconciled recently and he agreed to walk her down the aisle for her “marriage”. The fathers of Brynn and Doll also walked their daughters down the aisle on the day they entered into this union.
At the moment, the plan is to let Kitten bear all of the throuple’s children which they may conceive using eggs from each woman or adopting (if any agency will allow such an arrangement).
“Doll, Brynn and I are committed to each other and we wanted to grow our family,” Kitten said. “We decided that I would be the one to carry the babies because I am more than happy to become a full-time mum. When our daughter arrives in July, I’ll be the one changing the nappies and doing the feeds!”
They are also planning to homeschool their children to protect them from being bullied because of their unconventional family.
“Traditional school’s tough enough for a normal kid and I don’t want my child to be picked on because they’re raised differently,” Doll said. “I can’t stomach the idea of putting them in the crossfire like that.”
It’s a nice thought, however hollow it might ring. Have these women thought about what this arrangement will do to the child’s emotional and mental well-being? Notwithstanding the fact that he or she will be raised without the necessary contact with a father, who will protect them from the questions and inner turmoil that will result when they go to the playground or watch television or visit a restaurant where normal families are seen? When they’re old enough to understand, how will they feel about the fact that their “parents” marriage is not even legal? Assuming that the throuple will still be a throuple a few years from now, how will they deal with their children when they decide they want to know who their father is?
Even more important, what kind of impact will this threesome have on their children’s ability to form healthy relationships of their own one day? What will prevent them from engaging in risky multi-partner relationships, either hetero- or homosexual?
And finally, the question that weighs heaviest on my heart as I report on this incredibly disturbing tale . . . will anyone even care?
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