Resentment and Forgiveness When Dealing With Miscarriage and Infertility

Margalita Poletunow, LPCMH

is not unusual for a woman to experience a variety of negative emotions about her body when being unable to become pregnant or carry a baby to term. Her mind will be bombarded with thoughts and emotions trying to understand her current situation. However, two particular
feelings can lurk and can easily weigh her down and make her heart heavy.

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Words matter to a mother whose unborn child died by miscarriage!

by Margalita Poletunow, MA, LPC, LPCMH

During pregnancy, certain medical issues beyond the woman’s control can lead to the death of the child before it is born. The baby will die, for example, if a woman has a miscarriage, a stillbirth, or an ectopic pregnancy to mention a few.

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Regulating the Heart During Infertility or After Miscarriage

Margalita Poletunow, LMHC

When facing miscarriage or infertility the feelings such as confusion, shock, frustration, irritability, or for the woman to see herself as having less value than other “fertile women” may make sense. A woman may begin to internalize statements such as “God does not love me or does not care for me. Surely He knows that I am open to life, to be fruitful, to raise children and He has not made it happen.” These initial feelings are expected because a woman never dreamed of having reproductive challenges.

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Miscarriage, Infertility and the Christmas Season

by Margalita Poletunow, LPCMH

From the beginning of Advent and throughout the Christmas season, a woman facing infertility challenges or who has experienced a miscarriage or stillbirth may be filled with sadness and sorrow. At a time when all around her is brimming with excitement and joy, she may be bracing herself to swim against the waves of loneliness and a sense of emptiness. While family and friends may expect her to display the same seasonal euphoria as others around her, her heart may be aching over a desire that is unfulfilled or a baby that has died too soon.

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Women and Miscarriage

                                                                                                         Photo by Danie Franco on Unsplash

Margalita Poletunow, MA, LPC, LPCMH

From an early age, most women are dreaming of having a family one day. From the
time of their puberty, they have been told that God has designed their bodies to carry and birth a baby. Imagine years later when that woman is married, bubbling with excitement when she becomes pregnant, only to hear from her medical provider the most heartbreaking news: there is no heartbeat! You are having a miscarriage!

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Justice Ginsburg Offends Women Who Miscarry

Women who have lost their babies to miscarriage have taken offense to a comment made by Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg in a recent ruling on Indiana’s abortion laws that women who lose their child to abortion are not mothers. What about those who lose their child to miscarriage? The following heartbreaking testimony, from Priests for Life youth director, Bryan Kemper, describes just how wrong Ginsburg is in her assessment of when motherhood begins.

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